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2/12/2018 9:16:03 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

bookwormtobutte
Over 2,000 Posts (3,089)
Rio Rancho, NM
37, joined Jan. 2016


1. Hell yes, it's about time!
2. Why not, it'd be nice for a change.
3. I'd be a little uneasy but women are equal
4. It's ok half the time
5. It's ok sometimes but I pay more
6. No the man should always pay


And let the fur fly




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2/12/2018 9:24:29 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

dan9787_3
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,231)
Laval, QC
54, joined Jul. 2014


No problem, people can do as they please.

If a woman has the money and offers, why would I say no?

I love paying for women, treating them like they're special, etc

But refusing that they pay must be frustrating and oppressive (limiting their roles).

2/12/2018 9:25:00 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

uber_goober
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,086)
Danielsville, GA
52, joined May. 2016


I'm somewhere between #3 and #5. I think I completely understand the fairness of equal chances to pay the bill but some chauvinist indoctrinations die hard.

I'm just so used to paying the check.

2/12/2018 9:28:55 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
russmann2000
Seattle, WA
40, joined Oct. 2013


I have. I don’t mind it.

2/12/2018 9:29:42 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

inkedandsassyy
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,344)
Victoria
Australia
51, joined May. 2017


In the past I have payed for it all and other times payed half ... if you are dating the same person regularly the I pay this time you pay next always seems to work well ..

2/12/2018 9:40:06 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
cupocheer
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (289,473)
Assumption, IL
69, joined May. 2010


Hello



Just passing through


I don't date women.

2/12/2018 9:44:46 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

deaf_heart
Over 2,000 Posts (2,894)
Killeen, TX
40, joined Jan. 2017


I havent dated a woman in a while but as a woman I prefer to pay, especially on the first couple of dates. I can be a little to stubborn about it.

2/12/2018 9:45:42 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

Suzhi
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,235)
Knoxville, TN
55, joined Aug. 2016


I'm cool with whatever, unless it's a power ploy...

2/12/2018 9:49:24 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
cupocheer
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (289,473)
Assumption, IL
69, joined May. 2010


Hello



Just passing through

If he asks.... He pays

So, if a female and I, like my sister, offered, she pays.

2/12/2018 9:49:43 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

apokernut
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (21,030)
Elk Grove Village, IL
55, joined Jan. 2008


ok with it?? its a pre requisite!!

2/12/2018 9:59:12 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
cupocheer
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (289,473)
Assumption, IL
69, joined May. 2010


Hello



Just passing through

Leftovers

2/12/2018 10:12:16 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

bookwormtobutte
Over 2,000 Posts (3,089)
Rio Rancho, NM
37, joined Jan. 2016


Don't forget to vote.


2/12/2018 10:19:52 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

Suzhi
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,235)
Knoxville, TN
55, joined Aug. 2016


I voted for half the time, it must be the deadbeats that aren't voting...

2/12/2018 10:22:04 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

iam_resurrected
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (23,855)
Reno, NV
47, joined Jul. 2014


I order a 12 ounce steak with French fries no matter who pays. so it doesn't really matter, because my order never changes

2/12/2018 10:33:10 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

bookwormtobutte
Over 2,000 Posts (3,089)
Rio Rancho, NM
37, joined Jan. 2016


I'm happy to pay if I enjoy the company. But a lot of men get squeamish about it.

2/12/2018 10:40:49 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

iam_resurrected
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (23,855)
Reno, NV
47, joined Jul. 2014


if a male gets squeamish then he is no man. I have picked up the check for friends visiting from out of town and they have bought my meals when I have visited. being with a woman should be the same.

2/12/2018 10:42:11 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

deaf_heart
Over 2,000 Posts (2,894)
Killeen, TX
40, joined Jan. 2017


Quote from bookwormtobutte:
I'm happy to pay if I enjoy the company. But a lot of men get squeamish about it.
I've had this happen. Didn't go on another date with the guy.

2/12/2018 10:51:23 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
dawling
Over 2,000 Posts (2,334)
Laurel, MD
63, joined Nov. 2014


He'd already be getting free pie and buncake, now I gotta by him a happy meal too?

2/12/2018 10:53:28 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

bookwormtobutte
Over 2,000 Posts (3,089)
Rio Rancho, NM
37, joined Jan. 2016


Quote from deaf_heart:
I've had this happen. Didn't go on another date with the guy.


Yeah, but what I find weird is men always complaining how women are just after their money and always wanting the man to pay, and if women where really independent and liberal we would pay.
So I offer to pay and they act like I'm trying to cut their balls off

2/12/2018 11:23:56 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

k_tothe_c
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (23,770)
Las Vegas, NV
48, joined Dec. 2008


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2/12/2018 11:24:35 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

k_tothe_c
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (23,770)
Las Vegas, NV
48, joined Dec. 2008


Dem b*tches be linen up ta grab dem chexxx.


2/12/2018 11:41:14 PMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

urealysucklol
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,932)
San Benito, TX
46, joined Jul. 2014


The problem is that most
Women are dinner scammers
Or serial daters,

I'm with someone already,
But before I would not
Take out a woman for a
afew weeks, untill she
Puts out, then
Only then would I pay for
Dinner,

This weeded out all the scammers


F**king c*nts can't ever
Scam me

2/13/2018 1:01:56 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
Over 1,000 Posts (1,456)
Can Tho
Viet Nam
43, joined May. 2017


If I was to pick up a cheque that would mean someone is giving me money from a chequing account.

2/13/2018 1:06:57 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
anglicus_femina
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,964)
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016


Quote from bookwormtobutte:
Yeah, but what I find weird is men always complaining how women are just after their money and always wanting the man to pay, and if women where really independent and liberal we would pay.
So I offer to pay and they act like I'm trying to cut their balls off


Because those are the wrong type of men. Offering should be enough.

2/13/2018 1:17:34 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
Over 1,000 Posts (1,456)
Can Tho
Viet Nam
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Why do you say pick up the cheque?

It should be pick up the tab.

2/13/2018 1:18:20 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
Over 1,000 Posts (1,456)
Can Tho
Viet Nam
43, joined May. 2017


Pay for yourself and let him pay for himself.

2/13/2018 1:20:15 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
anglicus_femina
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,964)
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
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I disagree, I used to think that way. Because we're independent. But I have come to realise if you take away certain roles of a man. You get far less.

2/13/2018 1:21:51 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
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Can Tho
Viet Nam
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Quote from anglicus_femina:
I disagree, I used to think that way. Because we're independent. But I have come to realise if you take away certain roles of a man. You get far less.


Allow him to pay then he expects a root for desert.

Feck that shit

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2/13/2018 1:27:49 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
anglicus_femina
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,964)
Staffordshire
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Quote from 404_forum_post:
Allow him to pay then he expects a root for desert.

Feck that shit

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Actually no, f**k boys think that. You set your own standards.

A man just needs to know it will happen by your interest in him. Not actually when it will.

A man will respect your independence, but that does not mean a woman should make him feel like he has no purpose in her life.

2/13/2018 1:29:54 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
Over 1,000 Posts (1,456)
Can Tho
Viet Nam
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Quote from anglicus_femina:
Actually no, f**k boys think that. You set your own standards.

A man just needs to know it will happen by your interest in him. Not actually when it will.

A man will respect your independence, but that does not mean a woman should make him feel like he has no purpose in her life.


The majority who use the net are f**k boy's Rach it's so different being out some where getting to know someone in an environment where things happen naturally rather than online.

2/13/2018 1:34:50 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
dawling
Over 2,000 Posts (2,334)
Laurel, MD
63, joined Nov. 2014


Quote from 404_forum_post:
Allow him to pay then he expects a root for desert.

Feck that shit

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Root!

2/13/2018 1:35:54 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
anglicus_femina
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,964)
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
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Quote from 404_forum_post:
The majority who use the net are f**k boy's Rach it's so different being out some where getting to know someone in an environment where things happen naturally rather than online.


And that is down to us to change it. Be it online dating or offline dating.

I don't think all men are f**k boys on the net. I generally think a lot do not know what they want

2/13/2018 1:44:52 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
Over 1,000 Posts (1,456)
Can Tho
Viet Nam
43, joined May. 2017


Quote from anglicus_femina:
And that is down to us to change it. Be it online dating or offline dating.

I don't think all men are f**k boys on the net. I generally think a lot do not know what they want


Not all but when online typed words can give you an impression of WOW or what you see on this forum threads asking what did he or she mean when they said such and such?

Like seriously those people are asking posters who haven't even interacted with that person they keep guessing about they can't for the life of them figure who out their interacting with whether he or she is the real deal.

Go to an event a music event or whatever and that person who approaches you interacts with you have a better knowledge of you rather than typed words on the internet..

2/13/2018 1:50:00 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
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Can Tho
Viet Nam
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Quote from dawling:
Root!


Yes love

2/13/2018 2:09:00 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

apokernut
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (21,030)
Elk Grove Village, IL
55, joined Jan. 2008


Quote from urealysucklol:
The problem is that most
Women are dinner scammers
Or serial daters,

I'm with someone already,
But before I would not
Take out a woman for a
afew weeks, untill she
Puts out, then
Only then would I pay for
Dinner,

This weeded out all the scammers


F**king c*nts can't ever
Scam me


Words from a scorned man!! ololol

2/13/2018 2:12:38 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
anglicus_femina
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,964)
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016


It's actions that matter not words. Better still words that match the action

2/13/2018 2:16:02 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

404_forum_post
Over 1,000 Posts (1,456)
Can Tho
Viet Nam
43, joined May. 2017


Quote from anglicus_femina:
It's actions that matter not words. Better still words that match the action


Very True

2/13/2018 4:10:08 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
okbassman
Tacoma, WA
88, joined Feb. 2010


I've no idea. No woman has ever offered to pay.

2/13/2018 5:32:10 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

easttowest72
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,901)
Bremen, GA
46, joined Sep. 2014


I think it all depends on what # date you are on. On a first date it might make the guy feel obligated to a 2nd. Guys like to chase so maybe it makes the woman overly eager.

Some guys like to complain that the woman only wanted a free meal. It isn't the money for the meal they are upset about it's the fact she didn't want a second date. You have to read between the line when it comes to guys.

Nothing wrong with letting the guy treat you. If you enjoy his company, just relax, because if he likes you too, he won't mind picking up the check. You will have plenty of time to treat him.

2/13/2018 6:11:15 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

hippo65
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,720)
Albuquerque, NM
52, joined Apr. 2013


Quote from anglicus_femina:
I disagree, I used to think that way. Because we're independent. But I have come to realise if you take away certain roles of a man. You get far less.

I don't get that.
But here is my take..
If she offers to pay, it's a sign of her not interested in a second date.
Or it could be a test. Y6ou say OK and boom..That's a wrong answer...
So I heard..
I wouldn't think too much of it if she offers, and wouldn't feel squeamish or anything.

2/13/2018 6:20:34 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
anglicus_femina
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,964)
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016


Quote from hippo65:
I don't get that.
But here is my take..
If she offers to pay, it's a sign of her not interested in a second date.
Or it could be a test. Y6ou say OK and boom..That's a wrong answer...
So I heard..
I wouldn't think too much of it if she offers, and wouldn't feel squeamish or anything.


Wrong, if she is offering to pay towards the bill she is trying to tell you she is not interested in you for your money.

But a woman will accept if you insist. The problem being roles have become clouded to the degree that a woman does not want to been seen as a gold digger and a man is losing what is his sense of pride.

We can argue back and forwards who pays till the cows come home. But the reason dating became so complex over such issues is our ability to read the company that we are in.

A woman with pride will offer. A man with pride will decline the offer. Which from both points recognises a point of respect.

2/13/2018 6:25:00 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

inkedandsassyy
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Victoria
Australia
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I just offer out of fairness ...when I offer to pay its not a test or It's not I'm not interested. ..It means I like you and I beleive in giving not just receiving

2/13/2018 6:29:20 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

stayin_alive
Montigny le Roi
France
38, joined Feb. 2017


I can't speak for men. I can only speak for myself, and I'll be damned if I pay on first date. That is a big no.

If there is a second date, or he is my boyfriend officially, then no problem. I do that with great pleasure.

2/13/2018 7:11:34 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
Over 1,000 Posts (1,795)
Houston, TX
50, joined Jul. 2017


The "who picks up the check" is the primary question in your mind when dating, you shouldn't be dating.

2/13/2018 7:13:58 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

stayin_alive
Montigny le Roi
France
38, joined Feb. 2017


Indeed, I take it for granted. Him!

2/13/2018 7:15:54 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
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Houston, TX
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The solution is "do a runner" from the restaurant.

2/13/2018 7:16:41 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

stayin_alive
Montigny le Roi
France
38, joined Feb. 2017




did that, in HS.

2/13/2018 7:33:59 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

easttowest72
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Bremen, GA
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Quote from gustaf_deutsche:
The "who picks up the check" is the primary question in your mind when dating, you shouldn't be dating.


I agree. Unless the woman orders like she hasn't had a meal in three days, it shouldn't be a problem.

A friend of mine went on a date and he immediately knew he wasn't interested. He didn't want to be rude and bought her dinner anyway. She ordered a rack of ribs and a bbq sandwich. It came with fries and slaw. He said she ate all of it. Then in the parking lot she grabbed his junk and willing to put out for her meal.

2/13/2018 7:34:27 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
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Houston, TX
50, joined Jul. 2017


Quote from easttowest72:
I agree. Unless the woman orders like she hasn't had a meal in three days, it shouldn't be a problem.


Even then it shouldn't be a problem.

2/13/2018 7:41:40 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

easttowest72
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Bremen, GA
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Gussy, what do you do in those situations?

2/13/2018 7:43:59 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
Over 1,000 Posts (1,795)
Houston, TX
50, joined Jul. 2017


Pay the bill, again if money on any level was an issue I'd pay the bill. You shouldn't be dating if even an "expensive" restaurant tab is going to be a problem.

2/13/2018 7:45:12 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
Over 1,000 Posts (1,795)
Houston, TX
50, joined Jul. 2017


You should expect a few hundred dollars as the cost of a first date, unless you're a boring f**k and poor.

2/13/2018 7:45:35 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

easttowest72
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Bremen, GA
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Do you collect on that expensive bill?

2/13/2018 7:47:55 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

inkedandsassyy
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Victoria
Australia
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Why do women Assume the man should pay even on the first date I dont understand that ..You are both on the date you both accepted the date .
On the first date split the bill its only fair

2/13/2018 7:48:06 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
Over 1,000 Posts (1,795)
Houston, TX
50, joined Jul. 2017


Quote from easttowest72:
Do you collect on that expensive bill?


Not always, when I took my ex wife's family out and picked up the tab there were 8 people there, I only banged the one.

2/13/2018 7:50:04 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

easttowest72
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Bremen, GA
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Damn, I would avoid her family.

2/13/2018 7:50:30 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
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Houston, TX
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"ex wife"

2/13/2018 7:51:22 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 
gustaf_deutsche
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Houston, TX
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It's an interesting study in human behavior though...when you offer to pick the tab up for 8 people and no one protests.

2/13/2018 7:56:24 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

easttowest72
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Bremen, GA
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I dated a guy who told me his ex gfs dad would always wait for her to pick up the check. I told him they were waiting for him to pick up the check. I always thought parents of the couple usually pick up the check. Usually the older people have more money.

2/13/2018 7:56:43 AMWould you be ok dating with dating a woman who picks up the check? 

stayin_alive
Montigny le Roi
France
38, joined Feb. 2017


Quote from inkedandsassyy:
Why do women Assume the man should pay even on the first date I dont understand that ..You are both on the date you both accepted the date .
On the first date split the bill its only fair


You invite someone for dinner, and men usually will invite the woman. You pay. It is also a nice gesture and chivalry. Simple as that.