Until I met the dude who would later become by husband, I had an *arrangement* for over a year with an older guy- he was 25 years older, looked like a slightly badassed version of Mr. Big and worked as a television exec. in Montreal. I was fresh out of university, working in cafes and barely getting by. I thought of it more like a fuck-buddy arrangement... He got the time of his life 3-4 times a month (was too busy with work and too immature for having an ACTUAL relationship with a women his own age), and I had another source of income. He paid my rent, took me to concerts, events & vacation spots that there was no way I could otherwise afford. Everyone wins!

I would in a heartbeat... but I don't think there are many sugardaddies out there looking for a 37 yo bearish man.

I always figured husbands 1-3 would be sugar daddies, but then I met my amazing fiance who is twice my age, ten times my income, and the love of my life.  We fell in love of the third-ish date, moved in together on the fifth, and have been together for over 5 years.  Sometimes these relationships work.  He and I have some similar interests, enjoy learning about our different interests, and have created a strong relationship for the future.

What about if someone was really lonely with no friends paid you to be hang out with them and be their friend.  Wouldn't you feel a little guilty taking their money? There are lots of ways to exploit someones desperation consensually. Spending time with someone less attractive or popular than you and focusing the conversation on yourself, or always letting them pay for things or put more effort into a friendship.  

I remember when a i was busking in boston, and a group of mentally challenged adults on a field trip gave me ALL of the money each of them had because they thought is was fun! (a couple hundred dollars)  I couldn't take that in good conscience because it was exploiting them.  Yes, men have brains that are chemically inundated with messages to seek opportunities for  sex with available women as often as possible. Is there a difference then? Its not exploitation just because adults are responsible for their actions? explain it to me. Just because a man is willing to pay for it, doesn't make and ethically acceptable to do it. living off of someone else's labor just seems like it can't be good for your integrity.

why the hell not?

That seems unnecessarily defensive, Geoff. There's also the possibility that the arrangement is *exactly* how the sugardaddy/mama wants it. It's like people questioning "exploiting" someone I know who likes to be treated like a (literal) dog because it doesn't fit in with their idea of how "relationships" work. But it works exactly how he likes it. Exactly.