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• Would You Let Your Boyfriend Visit a Craigslist “Masseuse”?

  Admittedly, lovelorn writer “Rubbed Wrong” didn’t mention Craigslist, per se, in her letter to Miss Information. But we can extrapolate. Here’s a taste of her dilemma: "My boyfriend found a masseuse through the online classifieds. She wanted to exchange professional services with someone who could help her with a business plan. I told him I wasn't comfortable with this — he has a history of being deceitful." Then poor Rubbed Wrong learns her lover is still seeing said masseuse…Miss Info – and the people – have spoken, and their advice runs the gamut from “it’s your problem” to “he's going to screw the massager ( i can't spell massuse) and she's going to down play it like she has all his other assholisms. for good god's sake run!” Check out the loving and fighting, and feel free to add your own words o’ wisdom, right here. Posted Mar 18 2008, 03:04 PM by Nicole Ankowski with | with no comments Filed under: feedback, miss information, cheating, massage, masseuse

• Feedback Feast: What’s Wrong With Your Personal Ad?

  This poor lass wrote to Miss Information in despair: My dating profile has been active for years. Literally. Guys will hotlist me and look at my profile over and over, but they rarely reply to my emails. Any tips? Not only did Miss Info give her some great advice (“Stop bringing up your family. You answer eleven questions. Grandma & co. show up four times. Unless I have an incest fetish, I don't want to be thinking about your kinfolk when I'm taking the first steps toward doing the dirty.”)…and the readers opened the floodgates, as well. Yes, “good personal hygiene” should be expected, TM! If you’ve ever needed help crafting that personal, check out Miss Info’s “Unf*ckable Five” — the five dealbreaker terms that people use in online personals. Or, if you’ve read a helluva lot of unf*uckable online profiles…help this chick out. Check out the Feedback here, and post your own wisdom, too. My personal pet peeve? I know we’re all human, but dudes and ladies: check your spelling. A misspelled word can be the difference between a hot librarian checking out your books, and a hot librarian checking you out. Posted Jan 31 2008, 12:07 PM by Nicole Ankowski with | with 1 comment(s) Filed under: feedback, miss information, dating

• Feedback Feast: Miss Info Asked, You’re Giving…

  Today’s Miss Information ended with Miss Info herself asking for readers’ advice. One letter she couldn’t fit into this week’s column was from a person dating a single parent; the letter writer wondered at what point she could give child-rearing advice to her lover?  Some highlights from the ongoing discussion: “If you can't handle a tantrum, you probably aren't ready to date a parent.” “So you people who say 'never' you'll 'never' put enough trust in the person you're banging for them to suggest that maybe junior shouldn't have a soda right before bed?” “Yikes. Is there seriously no place in a relationship for a respectful discussion about parenting?” “Never, ever, ever. At least not until you have given the kid a kidney.” Want to add your words of wisdom? Join in right here. Posted Jan 16 2008, 04:32 PM by Nicole Ankowski with | with no comments Filed under: feedback, miss information

• Readers Respond: Checking in with the Feedbackers

  There have been a lot of comments about James Stegall’s essay “Personal Inventory.” “I never would have thought that I would read a good article about Land's End catalogs. It was like a combination between Updike and Bukowski. Beautifully insightful with subtle dark humor. Nicely done.” --HW Readers are also responding to Lisa Carver’s essay about dating a rich man, “Strange Currencies.” “That was funny and engaging, but most importantly it descirbed my experiences with love in such vivid detail and simplicity that I can't believe no one has said it to me before: all of a sudden it ends and you find yourself neither what you were before or during the relationship. Well put. “ --hlj “I really like how it's not solid--like, there's no definitive moral, yet it just makes you ponder.” --ZZ Posted Nov 30 2007, 04:00 PM by Sarah with | with no comments Filed under: lisa carver, personal essay, feedback, james stegall

• "There's a whole genre of extreme porno that I can't relate to at all."

  Shalom Auslander’s piece about hate-porn has been generating a lot of feedback. Anyone up for some throat-fucking? Click here to join the discussion.  “just on a gut level, it seems like it's geared for people who have an adolescent level of aggression, a lack of positive experience with sex, and a fundamental misunderstanding of eroticism.” - WL  “if you start to censor things where is the line and who decides? however some of the porn is now so disturbing and violent that i don't want to say "i support porn" anymore if that's what it is beginning to mean. i wonder sometimes how much we can push the envelope before we don't recognize ourselves anymore but i abhor the thought of judging another person's turn-ons, lest mine be next” - rh  “The really sad part is, is that i'm female and watching that shit turns me on...to a point, but then afterwards, i feel disgusted and sorry for the girl and I want to vomit. I guess I pretend I am that cunt slut, and cum, and then have to turn it off because it's gross, if a guy actually tried to do that to me, I'd have to hurt him.” - ef Posted Sep 11 2007, 06:00 PM by Sarah with | with no comments Filed under: porn, Shalom Auslander, feedback