Date Machine: Moving to New York and Where It Got Me

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shakenbake — Tue, 12 May 2009 13:43:01 GMT

amazing. i don't know if you are brave or foolish. but i know i've been both and it's been worth it either way. good luck and i will miss you!

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whitewashasian — Tue, 12 May 2009 06:11:35 GMT

you're giving it your all and you're only crazy if you fail and brave if you succeed. neither has happened and yet it's better then sitting on your butt in sf doing nothing.

funny how the blog ends when both our lives are on the cusp of the uncertainty of a relationship, it comforts me to read this last entry of yours. good luck and i hope one day to stumble across another blog entry of yours.

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lovemardou — Mon, 11 May 2009 21:38:03 GMT

definitely going to miss reading you

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MDLF — Mon, 11 May 2009 13:50:05 GMT

I started reading this post and was reminded of how I felt six months ago, at the beginning of my current relationship. I think I fell in love with him right away. And when I recently told him, it was OK that he didn’t say it back.

I was reassured as I read your words about how love isn’t something you find, it’s something you give. I really just want to give him that, want him to know he is loved by me. Of course I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to be loved by him, but I am hopeful that it’s coming. I’m a bit older than you, and love and romance having really beat the shit out of me in the past, perhaps a bit wiser. I think I accept that he isn’t going to fix my wounded emotions and so I just enjoy being in love with him. I hope my love story has a happy ending, and yours too.

I have enjoyed your writing, best of luck to you.

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casualencounters.com/blog/ — Sun, 10 May 2009 23:38:03 GMT

Your writing fills me with ennui and doubt. I'm undecided as to whether that's a good thing, but it's at least interesting to feel. Thank you for sharing this with us. Good luck for the future.

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amboabe — Sun, 10 May 2009 21:49:34 GMT

vix: thanks. i'd do it a million times over again, whatever happens...

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vix_en25 — Sun, 10 May 2009 11:17:32 GMT

Ive been there Ambo... I moved to France for a boy who dumped me two months into it. I was living in the south west part of France that first year, all alone, bemused and rejected. I started having panic attacks on my way to school every day, and saw his ghost everywhere. After about 8 months of that I decided it was time to move to Paris where I had some friends and I knew I would feel better. It ended up being the rememdy for my endless search for what I enjoyed doing. Even if it doesnt work out with the 'love of your life', you might actually stumble upon some realizations that will help you get through the rest of your life. Its good, if you MAKE IT good. voila.

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Johnny Rotten — Sun, 10 May 2009 01:21:45 GMT

Ah ha ha -- ever get the feeling you've been cheated? Goodnight!

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incredulous — Sat, 09 May 2009 22:13:48 GMT

(s)he's just not that into you.

Read the book dude.

She would tell you herself except she's nervous that you will do something stupid like harm yourself or stalk her even more than you are already doing.

You need therapy so badly it ain't funny.

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amboabe — Sat, 09 May 2009 20:35:53 GMT

Thanks, friends :) Me too...

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slept_in — Sat, 09 May 2009 06:20:47 GMT

I am undone, thank-you for your words and truth. I will sincerely miss reading your life story.

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Mariposa — Sat, 09 May 2009 06:20:33 GMT

I'm not sure if you realize just what a comfort your words are to others in similar situations, or just how many of us there are in such situations.

If I didn't know this was your last post, Michael, I would not have said anything. Most people don't express love or admiration - and you know that isn't just for pieces of writing.

So please, for yourself and for us, keep blogging somewhere else. You're a real writer, a thoughtful person, and the ways you tell your story matters to more people than you may know now.

be well.

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just somebody — Sat, 09 May 2009 02:44:50 GMT

thanks

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just_a_fan — Sat, 09 May 2009 02:07:58 GMT

You, sir, are a genuine raconteur.

Thank you for the effort, the caring, the sharing, the truth. Thank you for your unique brand of courage.

This tiny corner of the web will be missed.

Authenticity always wins.

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athena8235 — Sat, 09 May 2009 00:43:22 GMT

During a year in which my own romantic/sexual life has been both complicated and sort of non-existent, as I met someone who I fell hard for who moved across the country a week later, "not-dated" him for months, and then ended things badly, it's been comforting to be able to tune in to someone else's stories and remember what it feels like to be connected to another person. And your stories always read as rawly true and heartfelt. Thanks for sharing.

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the only thing that needs to be — Fri, 08 May 2009 23:39:03 GMT

“I can handled [sic] not being your boyfriend, not being your sweetheart..."

No you can't.

Boy, you crazy. Good luck with that.